Lack of predictability can be scary for people with trauma. It can make transitions of any kind a challenge, whether you are transitioning from playing in the park to going home for dinner or transitioning from summertime back to school. Fortunately, there are ways to help our kids better manage those transitions. Everything starts with [...]
One of the things I struggled to understand when we first became parents was felt-safety. I understood that negative behaviors could be driven by fear, which made perfect logical sense, it still does. But how can someone who is safe have those same negative behaviors just because they don’t feel safe? I didn’t understand felt-safety because I [...]
It’s the start of a new year so we thought we’d go back and start at the very beginning, it is after all a very good place to start.I remember when we first learned about trauma and its impacts, and how that new knowledge impacted me. Learning about trauma changed me in two very important [...]
There is a question we always ask parents we work with, "Why do you parent the way you do?" After all, understanding why you do what you do is more important than understanding how you do it. You can't change the "How" if you don't understand the "Why". We typically get some combination of these [...]
Choices I was recently thinking about some of my go-to parenting tools, you know the ones you use when the kids are struggling. One of the first tools I got to is giving my kids choices. Giving my kids choices allows us to get where we need to go while recognizing that we might need [...]
Proactive vs. Reactive Parenting One of the first changes we had to make in our parenting was moving from reactive to proactive parenting. It takes more work at first, reacting is easier and comes naturally to most of us, but it doesn't help change behavior in the long run.Watch as Kayla talks about Proactive vs. [...]
Parenting is not an easy job. We are responsible for training and shaping the next generation. That task weighs heavy on me some days. Other days I find myself managing behaviors and not sure that I am doing anything of significance. Am I shaping the next generation or simply becoming a drill sergeant of a […]
We are excited to announce the launch of our online parent coaching service, Empowered Parent Coaching. We know that families are struggling more than ever during these strange times. Behaviors have regressed and patience is running out. Stress levels are higher in our homes these days than ever before. We know that many people need help. […]
Crisis schooling has looked very different than homeschooling. I have a shortlist of school work, that rarely gets completed. I have kids who can’t sleep at night because they are afraid. I have kids who are eating way more often because they remember a time when food was scarce. I have kids who are talking […]
We had no idea when we started our podcast four years ago how much it would grow. What started out as the three of us sharing our honest conversations about our families has now been downloaded over 300,000 times! We love reading listener comments, emails, and reviews. We love meeting you at events and conferences […]